Jan
25
Real Estate and Happiness
Posted by walkeri under For Buyers, For Realty Professionals, For Sellers, General Information, Happiness, future, homes, real estate, trend
As a real estate agent I have spent years learning about real estate, and can say with some pride that I know a thing or two about it. And, like most everyone else on earth, I have spent years seeking happiness, and think I know a thing or two about it as well. I was already prepared to make a lifelong study of real estate, but now I’m realizing that happiness is likewise a subject that might require lifelong study as well. What do real estate and happiness have to do with each other? Well, nothing, and everything.
The difficult times of the past few years have taught me some valuable lessons: that some of what I thought I knew about happiness was just plain wrong, and that even when I was right, much of what I “knew” intellectually was not fully internalized and applied to my day to day life.
In case you’ve been living under a rock, you may have noticed that the real estate market has changed dramatically over the last 5 years or so, and not for the better. Not just the real estate market but the entire world as we knew it has changed dramatically. Those of us whose assets and retirement were mostly tied up in home equity are looking at an entirely new, and insecure future. Our nest eggs are decimated, our future uncertain. Many people owe more on their houses than the houses are worth. Ouch.
Likewise, the stock market, for anyone invested before 2000, is a grave yard where lies buried many a budding young fortune. The events of the last 10 years, starting with the stock market crash in 2000, followed by 9/11, the outsourcing of manufacturing jobs, the outsourcing of “information” jobs, domestic terrorism, the banking collapse, the bail-outs, the real estate collapse, the ballooning federal deficit, the dysfunctional political system, climate change, storms, earthquakes, droughts, etc. etc. have all contributed to a gnawing sense of fear of the future that permeates not just this country, but virtually the entire world. The future ain’t what it used to be.
I think it’s safe to say that for most people, our sense of overall happiness has declined along with our assets and with our sense of a secure future. We go through the day with a gnawing sense of unease and “what if’s”: what if the housing market continues to erode, the stock market crashes, we get “downsized, China sells our bonds, all manufacturing leaves this country, the political system becomes entirely frozen, terrorists strike again, the climate becomes more unstable, floods and droughts get worse… ay yi yi! It can drive you nuts worrying about all the things that can go wrong!
And so we are less happy, because our sense of happiness is inextricably tied to our sense of security, financial and otherwise, and with our comfort level with our vision of the future, right? It’s obvious that happiness and security are related. But here’s an interesting question: Does security exist?
Let’s say you have a million dollars in the bank – make it 10 million, whatever will make you feel financially “secure”. But all that money won’t protect you against any host of debilitating diseases. What about car wrecks and fires and floods and a myriad of physical injuries. What if those afflictions strike our loved ones? Financial security only goes so far – real security, real confidence that we’ll be just fine in the “foreseeable” future, isn’t really even possible. The future isn’t foreseeable. Terrible things can happen to any of us at any moment.
Think of all the people you know. I’ll bet you can rate them on their overall comfort level with the future: ranging from those that worry all the time to those that seldom worry about anything. And I’ll make you a bet: there’s little correlation between the amount of worry a person feels, and their financial situation. And I’ll take it the next step: likewise there’s little correlation between a person’s “happiness” and their financial situation.
I’ll bet we all have among our friends and acquaintances some relatively “poor” people and some relatively “rich” people. Think about it for a second – can you honestly say the rich people you know are happier than the “poor” people you know? What’s up with that? If financial security isn’t related to happiness, then why aren’t we as happy as we were before the world seemingly started falling apart?
A psychologist recently did a very interesting study. He interviewed 2 groups of people 6 months after a dramatic life changing event. The first group consisted of people who had won the lottery; the second group consisted of people that had 6 months earlier suddenly become paraplegics or quadriplegics. In the study he asked the members of each group a very simple question: “Are you happier or sadder than you were before your life-changing event”?
Of course the lottery winners were happier and the para and quadraplegics were sadder than they’d been before the big events. That’s just common sense, right? Uh…wrong! What the psychologist found was that there was NO CHANGE in either group’s overall feeling of happiness from pre-event to post-event!! Huh? What does this mean?
It means that not only is happiness not related to our financial condition, it’s not even related to our physical condition! So, what is happiness? What is it related to? Where does it come from? How do we achieve it?
Good question. Worthy of study. I’m on it…
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